Each week in The Wisdom of Change blog series, I share the original artwork and unpack the insights and meaning behind one of the 44 cards in The Wisdom of Change oracle deck.
This week’s card is 20: Personal Truth
The Personal Truthcard holds so much power for me. The first sentence on the card wording continues to resonate so strongly in my life;
You cannot hide from yourself when you are looking for yourself.
It still amazes me how honest I need to get before I can create meaningful change in my behaviours and deep transformation in my life. Nothing less than a squirm inducingly eyeball to eyeball conversation with myself will suffice. I can tell myself comforting stories and administer myself a hundred great excuses to feel temporarily better, but sooner or later I have to admit to that I’m not getting the outcomes that I truly desire by not telling myself the truth.
It may have begun in earnest when I was encouraged to take 100% responsibility for my side of a less than optimal predicament I had found myself in. Previously I had thought that taking 50% responsibility for the situations I experienced was fair; that shouldering half the blame would be a reasonable expectation for me to carry. Just who I thought might take the other half, I’m not sure!
If I’m honest, I still find it comforting to try and place blame elsewhere when something in my life doesn’t go according to plan; an approach my dear husband reminds me is most unedifying… isn’t it great to have people in our lives who remind us to laugh at ourselves 😉
Recently I admitted to my health coach that I was seeking to blame someone or something for my stubborn weight loss. Owning the fact that I have a sneaky habit of seeking to blame is not something I am proud of, but it is liberating and illuminating. When I admit this penchant to myself without making other people wrong, I get to see that it’s not their fault after all. It’s irritating at first to have no thing or no one else to blame for a problem that I’ve not yet overcome, but it leads me to seek alternative ways of fixing the situation; a far more rewarding and successful approach.
On this occasion my health coach rewarded me with this beauty of an insight:
Blame = victim mentality.
Ah yes, of course! And in the spirit of knowing that ‘the way we do one thing is the way we do everything’ I set about scanning for other places in my life where I have been unwittingly behaving like a victim. It’s bittersweet to accept a series of honest truths, but as the insights landed I realised what I had been doing. It felt like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders, and as it turned out, the feeling was not metaphorical. The following morning, I woke up feeling amazing and my reward? I registered 2lbs lighter on the scales!
Inspired by this reminder of how personal change actually works, I have committed to digging deeper this week to find where else I might be trying to hide the truth from myself and make someone or something else wrong in the process.
I wonder where shining the light of personal truth might help you too?
I hope you’ve enjoyed this week’s connection to your inner wisdom.
As always, I’d love to hear your comments below.