Each week in The Wisdom of Change blog series, I share the original artwork and unpack the insights and meaning behind one of the 44 cards in The Wisdom of Change oracle deck.

This week’s card is 31 Unconditional Love

Hands up who’s had a relationship they thought they’d never recover from?

This was certainly part of my journey of profound personal change.  I really thought I might never get over the pain it caused or the practical impact it had on my life. Such was the seriousness of the course redirect it set in motion, I barely recognised myself for many years.

Back then, I thought that the breakdown of this relationship had happened to me.  I was broken hearted and reeling from the shock waves of the split.  I beat myself up, over analysed everything and wondered what I had done to deserve the mental, financial and emotional fallout that followed his choice to go.  I was left with a huge house with equally large overheads, a fledgling business and two tiny children.  I won’t deny that it was terrifying, and I was perennially overwhelmed with the enormity of the situation I found myself in.

And this was exactly the conditions that I required to put myself on a radically different trajectory.

Looking back, I see that this devastating split didn’t happen to me; it happened for me.  Nothing short of this level of ‘disaster’ would be sufficient for me to face one of the hardest lessons I’ve had to learn so far (still work in progress, btw); to love myself unconditionally.

In order to drop the ‘victim’ archetype, I needed to work with the theme of unconditional love.  I needed to adopt some radically state shifting ideas for a woman who thinks she’s been ‘done over’. That everyone is doing the best they can with the tools they’ve got is one such presupposition.  From a ‘soul evolution’ perspective, I was encouraged to see that some people come into our life to ‘do us wrong’ so that we can experience what we came here to learn in this lifetime.  Now that might sound incredibly ‘out there’ to you and it certainly did to me, but quite frankly, it was about the only thing that made any sense at that point in time. And ironically it was ‘bonkers’ new perspectives that saved my life (well, my sanity at least!) and cumulatively created the conditions for me to heal.

Sometimes we need to ‘have our backs against the wall’ before we can find it in ourselves to take life changing action and adopt new and deeply resourceful perspectives.  If we can come out of such a situation with the knowing that when all else is gone, all that is left is love, then I don’t suppose we are doing too bad 😉

Where is the theme of unconditional love inviting you to explore in yourself today?

With unconditional love x

I hope you’ve enjoyed this week’s connection to your inner wisdom.

As always, I’d love to hear your comments below.

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