The way we feel about it is probably linked to how much control we feel over the change that’s happened or is coming our way. However we feel about change, it always represents an opportunity for personal growth beyond measure if we decide to take an empowered approach.
Life is Change, Growth is Optional. Choose wisely.
1. Change you desire
Change you desire by definition hasn’t happened yet. It is change that you have had time to think about as a result of identifying what you believe is missing from your life or what you would like to be different and better. This might be a desired change in your personal behaviours, thoughts or circumstances. This sort of change is motivated by a longed-for improvement in areas such as finances, health, fitness, relationships, employment status and a sense of wellbeing, confidence, peace and happiness. This can be a very frustrating and energy-draining type of change to be struggling with on your own, especially if you can’t seem to land your desired results despite all your efforts or past successes.
2. Undesired/unexpected change
Perhaps one of the most unsettling types of change is when you don’t see it coming. This type of change can feel like a devastating shock to the system or unwelcome blow to the ego and can leave you feeling resourceless and vulnerable, angry and afraid. You may feel powerless to influence unexpected change and you may be thinking stressful thoughts about how you might have done things differently. Perhaps you would rather things had stayed the way they were and this focus on the past can prevent you moving forward at the speed you desire. This type of change is often accompanied by powerful emotions of blame, anger and victim type feelings that you don’t even recognise in yourself. You are keen to replace them with much more empowered feelings such as happiness, gratitude, excitement, sense of direction and deeply grounded resourcefulness.
3. Change we are curious about
Maybe you are feeling the need for change, but you are not quite sure what you are looking for. This type of change can by accompanied by the feeling that you will know it when you see it, or you will simply get a sense of what you need when you find it. Change you are curious about often results from asking a series of great quality questions like ‘is this all there is?’, I wonder why I’m not happy with my lot?’ or how can I make a difference in the world doing what I love?’ This sort of change can be tricky to navigate because although the desire to explore it is there, there may be too much comfort associated with your current circumstances to provide the leverage for the change to take place. In this case you may feel like you are going round in circles with your thoughts, dithering about major decisions and constantly canvassing the opinion of others with no satisfactory resolution presenting itself. On the other hand, this type of change can be enormously fun and enlightening as you set off to find new ways of thinking and doing things that inspire you.
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4. Philanthropic Change
This category of change is characterized by you becoming increasingly aware of what you’d like to change in the world as a result of feeling an innate sense of injustice about a particular issue. It can happen at any stage of life but is likely to bother you more as your personal needs have largely been met and you seek to reach out and make a difference to others. Perhaps you have a sense that you have
Wendy Prior is a Coach, Writer, Creative and Personal Change Specialist.
Following a decade of exploring her skills as a coach, she founded The Wise Girlfriend in 2017 as a vehicle to share success strategies with women seeking change for the better. In 2020 Wendy published The Wisdom of Change oracle deck which captures the key elements of change wisdom that led her to transform the trajectory of her own life and support countless clients to do the same. She is currently writing her first book; a guide for women seeking to create or having to navigate profound personal change.
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